Yesterday’s Strawberry Moon chill with @mrcracksandjugs 🍓🌙
You have the power to control who takes up time and energy in your life. This requires a bit of initial work with a notebook and some occasional revisiting, but is an immensely useful tool to living in contentment and recognising your pressure points. The only people that get upset or defensive when you assert these lines are the people who benefit from you having none. Boundaries do not come from a place of spite or anger, they come from a dedication to your enjoyment of life, protecting your self worth and wellbeing.
You determine how much space is taken up by toxic colleagues, unhealthy relationships and selfish friendships. Boundaries are not there to keep the right people away - those people will acknowledge them and love you more for living your truth – they are there to prevent a draining of your energy and resources by the wrong people. People you want to protect yourself from. If someone does not appreciate your markers, they by definition do not respect or love you and they’re opening their own door; simply wave them goodbye with forgiveness and love in your heart.
It’s not always easy, but holding on tightly to toxicity causes more damage than just letting it go, and frees up space for better things. The actions, thoughts, words and behaviours of others are not your fault or responsibility. Likewise if you are doing no harm to yourself and others, then you absolutely do not have to act in accordance to someone else’s wishes and commands or require their approval. If you do wrong, face yourself and apologise.
Cocoon yourself in your unique values and goals; live honourably and gratefully, be kind, respectful, honest and yourself. Agree to things that feed your energy, and no to anything that drains it.
Think of You as an additional person in your life to consider, as an old friend. You want the best for this person, you encourage and support and nourish them, so get strong and brave when someone undermines, underappreciates or undervalues them ✨ - Thoughts for a few people who need it 💗